Thursday, 7 April 2011

A - Z Blogging Challenge: F is for Family and Friends...

I once posted a topic on a forum in Blog-catalog to ask what is more important family or friends

The question received a wide response of answers and many readers felt really passionate about both family and friends, I would to hear want you all think...It seems to be a tough debate...

I am not sure if there is a right or wrong answer

So I ask you

"What is more of friends?"

  1. nothingprofound
    nothingprofound I don't think one is more important than the other. Both have their place.
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    1. timethief
      timethief I agree.
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  2. nowwetalkin
    nowwetalkin I totally agree. Family is family and friends are like family. You love them both.
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    1. timethief
      timethief Well said.
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    2. nowwetalkin
      nowwetalkin Thanks! I totally agree. Family is family and friends are like family. You love them both.
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  3. mindrush
    mindrush Can you be more specific as to what you have on your mind ?

    Each has its place and whether or not if one is more important than the other varies from person to person. Maybe if you can answer, out of these two which one can manage to live without.
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  4. Theresa111
    Theresa111 Besides a family is not always a blood relation. A family is comprised of those people you want in your life.
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    1. neeechy
      neeechy Of course it's the friends you call family, and the family you are friends with.
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  5. Theresa111
    Theresa111 They are all important.
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  6. bloggerking123
    bloggerking123 We need to distinguish whether we see family and friends under the same bracket. Whilst we may have close kinship ties to family...friends are considered as family.

    Many people in current society live in cohabiting alternative families, made up of friends house sharing.

    But could you live without families and friends?
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    1. timethief
      timethief I don't believe we need to distinguish between the two because I have close friends so close they are as close to me as my siblings are.
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    2. timethief
      timethief Yes, of course I could live without either family or friends. People are superfluous to my survival and to yours as well. We humans need oxygen, water, food, and shelter to survive. That being said people blanket the Earth, and making new friends who become as close to one as family is isn't all that difficult if you exercise discernment and wisdom when you select.
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    3. bloggerking123
      bloggerking123 A very constructive and valid point to the argument
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    1. bloggerking123
      bloggerking123 Thank you, that is very relevant to the discussion
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  7. hatingtherain
    hatingtherain Friends are important, but family is family
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  8. Hels
    Hels I am with hatingtherain.

    I love my friends dearly and enjoy their company, but when push comes to shove, "family is family".

    If I had been desperately ill for a month and couldn't look after the children, I would have happily relied on my parents, siblings, aunts and first cousins to step in.
    12/31/10 · Reply · Flag
  9. mariorol
    mariorol Family is first in my point of view. normal friends can be family but really they are not, but i think sometimes a very close friend or a very special can become one more member of your family, can happen. Family all the way.
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  10. Eradicate
    Eradicate Well in my life neither are important...People tend to be untrustworthy and my family seems to be no better.I live on my own though im not bitter,Im actually quite nice.Im adopted and i not using that as an excuse but when i think of my family i think....what family?
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  11. bloggerking123
    bloggerking123 great friends soon become members of your extended family
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  12. yunyi2009
    yunyi2009 i had experience of treating a friend "better" than family, but later at my tough time this friend damped me, and my mother who i had long time difficulties to get close to gave me her unconditional support. but, i don't think this single experience can summarize the difference between family relationship and friendship. there are plenty of friends can get closer than brothers and sisters, plenty of family members fight each other over many material issues.
    probably overall speaking, family members are somehow tighter than friends, especially in Asian countries.
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  13. lnclark1950
    lnclark1950 My gut reaction is family is always more important but then I remember that sometimes that is not true. What is more important than anyone thing is for a person not to feel alone. Most people who feel completely alone usually do not have good emotional and psychological stability. Ideally family would be more important but having friends can be just as important.
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    1. Theresa111
      Theresa111 Howdy Partner!
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    2. Claza
      Claza Great point.

      I'm thinking, what about those people that say they enjoy their own company most of the time and say they never get lonely..can that b true?

      On the family vs friends thing i'd say it depends on your situation. Personally I could never be closer to a friend than I am with with my sister, we can talk about anything to each other. My dad always tries to help out no mater what and I carry that on with my children. On the other hand someone else may have a close friend like that.
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  15. angelkein
    angelkein There are friends and there are also acquaintances. If your friends are true friends then they're already part of your family. So I say, family is important because it includes not only those who are blood related but also those whom are so great, they're already part of it. 
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  16. aspotofblog
    aspotofblog They all have their own place in my life. I wouldn't say one is more important than the other.
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  17. mutantpanda
    mutantpanda I have family (my kids), I have some people I'm related to (my mother and sister) and I've friends who I see as my chosen family. My loyalties and my love aren't particularly distributed based on that order. Kids come first, friends second and... yeah, that's it!
    2/01/11 · Reply · Flag


  1. Interesting discussion on the subject going on here. I would say they equally as important. My closest friends are like family to me.

  2. I think friends are our extended family or can be.
    Family for me; I move a lot. I have to find new peeps!

  3. I don't think that either relationship is more important. They are each important in their own ways

    stopping in for a visit from the A to Z

  4. I think they both are important and have their place, really. It also depends on how you feel about them, I guess. I have friends that I would do anything for and relatives I barely know to see on the street. If that makes any kind of sense. ;)

  5. I havent had a real friend in a long time. I have my kids, so I havent had to choose, its always been family for me. Not to say I dont want some close friends, I am just saying I have survived just fine with only family :)

  6. For me, it's friends - I don't think I'd be around if it weren't for my friends. I love my family because they're family. But would I choose some of them. I don't think so.

  7. For myself I would have to say family. My family is always here for me and I'm here for them. I'm almost 43 years old. I've had many 'friends', most have disappeared from my life, some were just pretenders. I can think of one in particular who wanted something from me, once she had taken all she wanted I never heard from her again. In general I've found friends to be fickle. I like family better.

  8. I always thought that family was the most important and would do anything for mine. But at a time of need for me, friends who had no reason to help me stepped in when my family didn't. Someone said to me at that time that sometimes you create a family from the close circle of friends in your life and you become closer to them than your own your flesh and blood.


  9. Seems as if you all have different opinions on this, but conclusions can be drawn that they mean different things for different people. Thanks for all the messages. All so nicely written also.

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